As Joe and I are praying about expanding our family, I can't help but think about those dreaded days that people don't seem to talk much about. The days when you come home from the hospital and you expect everything to be just as you see on TV, or on your favorite blog or news feed.. days full of bliss, butterflies and perfectly posed babies in their plush blanket-buckets... but instead you find yourself crying uncontrollably in the corner for absolutely no reason. Your baby is screaming and wont latch on and all you want to do is crawl in a hole and never come out...
Yes, lack of sleep always plays on peoples emotions. but this pain is deeper, darker and for some reason it is kept on the 'hush hush' in the world of mommies. this pain is known as baby blues {postpardum} and Im here to tell you its REAL its SCARY and IT WILL PASS!
I can honestly say that i had a very hormonally normal pregnancy. Of course i had the occasional blow out on my sweet helpless husband, but for the most part I was able to hold it all together. I had no reason to expect what was to come when we brought our baby girl home. To put it lightly, I just couldn't stop crying. Here I was with this precious new life and I felt like my world was coming to an end! and between you and me, there were days I wanted it to be the end. All the blog post I kept reading said after three months everything started getting back to normal and they were finally out of the clouds... THREE MONTHS!!!???!?! I didn't think i was going to make it to 3 o'clock! and then, what was supposed to be an encouraging google search, lead to another desperate text message to my husband, begging him to come home while i sat in a puddle of my own tears...
...That leads me to the precious men that God gave us... oh boys! We are thankful for your patience! Frankly I was fearful i might become a single mom! (not really) but poor Joe was absolutely clueless, helpless and frankly he was just confused! Where did his wife go, and who the heck is this crazy woman raising his child?? And as wonderful as joe is he wasn't the best "girlfriend" with a shoulder to cry on. So girls, if you man seems distant, i promise he will come back. They are just men and more often than not, they try to avoid crazy-women drama as best they can.. even if it involves your newborn baby.
So here are my thoughts. When Godly men and women bring a child of the Lord into this world, with intentions of raising them in a Christ honoring family, what more could fuel Satans fire of destruction?? Ten months of hormones are raging out of you at one time and what better time to prey on your weakness!! DO NOT LET HIM WIN!! God is stronger and more powerful than Satan at his very best! But here is the kicker.. I am realistic and I experienced this first hand. Just because we are absolutely certain of these truths doesn't mean that we always FEEL them right away! This is where constant prayer, fresh air and a good girlfriend or mama comes in handy! Go outside! If you can only make it to the end of the block, that's great! It took me about 2 weeks to go any further (and sometimes i cried and sang my way back to the house) but it helped pass ten minutes!
Take each day hour by hour and if you have to, minute by minute. Turn on your favorite song and sing it as loud as you can (don't worry about the babe, they need to get used to loud noises and your AMAZING singing voice)
Now all this being said, I don't write this to scare you or discourage bringing these precious blessings into the world. I have had plenty of friends that experienced the instant bliss of mommyhood and am so thankful they did not have to go through the blues! But if you do encounter these emotions, i want you to know you are not alone and there are people here to help you through it! And NEVER be too prideful to call your doctor and ask for help!
So when you are up at the wee hours of the morning looking at facebook/instagram of all your friends out having a good time or you see the perfectly lit picture of a smiling baby and wondering why yours wont stop crying (or you wont stop crying), just remember these moments will pass! I can't tell you how long, but take a deep breath. Your baby will latch, they will roll over, they will always hate tummy time, they will smile, you WILL have another date night, your body wont look like this forever and your world isn't over.. Its only just beginning! XOXO
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